I
know it has been a while since my last blog, I wanted to apologize for
that but then again I thought if it was intentional and I had my
reasons, why act like it was a mistake? So
instead I said to myself, if you have something really important to say
then share it but if you are busy and trying to finish some other
projects then don't force yourself to write just anything because you
have a blog. This brings me to the topic of this message "seeking
unnecessary approval from social media". So
I read two devotionals today and to my surprise they were saying
practically the same things. The first one talked about how we are
creatures of approval. We all depend on what other people think of us
and say about us before we evaluate ourselves. The
truth is, a lot of people wake up in the morning and the first thing
they do is check their social media pages even before they say good
morning to anyone. They want to see who has said what about who, and so
many other things that are not beneficial to their lives. People
now hide under the guise of social media to give their "supreme"
opinions about other people's affairs but can't show their faces, it has
become the major identity of a lot of people. Human beings have sold
their true identities by acquiring screen names to cause harm to
others. People
would rather sneak to private places in their offices to check out who
is wearing what to an event and who they think is S*XIER, then they go
on popular sites to pass judgement on others with such venom that you
will wonder if they have even met the person. If you take a few steps back, you will ask yourself where our own brains and minds have gone? Have we become so dependent on other people's opinions that we have lost our own identities? I
am not saying social media is bad, please don't get me wrong. But I
fear for those who have turned it into their BIBLE and their life
manual. We
no longer have a mind of our own to research or question any
information we receive. We just depend on whatever one person has sat
down in their living rooms to construct. Then you wonder how one person
who is not even in the same country as you, knows what happened inside
your bathroom. Then we read it and share it, others pick up on it and
all of a sudden it becomes the TRUTH. It goes on Google so that when the
victims name or company name is typed, people get to see a story that
was started by one person siting in a small cubicle with a small laptop.
Some
people have accused me of not being in tune with my fans, they have
called me a snob they have said I don't respond instantly to messages. I
know that when it's a direct message it's easier for me to respond.
But how do I spend hours everyday responding to over a hundred thousand
people at the same time. We all try to respond to as many as we can in a
day but I can't possibly respond to all. Contrary
to popular beliefs by these naysayers, STELLA has a life, she has a
family and she has work to do as well. Entertainers are not jobless
people who sit around waiting for people to send messages so they can
respond. Besides like I have said I am not on Facebook anymore so anyone
expecting to hear from me there is wasting their time. I
don't wake up every morning and run to check twitter or Instagram. I go
there when I can to communicate with as many people as I can, and I
only put info or pictures out that I feel are necessary to share. Some
have also said that I don't have as many followers as others, that made
me laugh a lot because they did not realize that I don't go snooping
around to find out what others have that I don't. The fact that I have a
group of people who are dedicated fans and follow me is more than
enough for me to be grateful to God. I don't look around for who is
doing what or who has what, neither do I do things because others are
doing it. Our
destinies and purpose are totally different. So when people try to
compare, it becomes strange for them when I respond by laughing. They
don't understand why I don't care about too many things. I have tried to
let people know that I have discovered the most important things in
life and what my everyday goal is, anything outside of that is a waste
of time and energy. If
your so hooked on social media and you are not using it to grow your
clientele for your business then you need to re-evaluate yourself and
who you have become.
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